Saturday, November 10, 2012
Friday, October 26, 2012
Thursday, October 11, 2012
October Love
Monday, October 1, 2012
A Blue Rose
I was just forwarded this from my Godmother.
A Blue Rose
Having four visiting family members, my wife was very busy, so I offered to go to the store for her to get some needed items, which included light bulbs, paper towels, trash bags, detergent and Clorox. So off I went.
I scurried around the store, gathered up my goodies and headed for the checkout counter, only to be blocked in the narrow aisle by a young man who appeared to be about sixteen-years-old. I wasn't in a hurry, so I patiently waited for the boy to realize that I was there. This was when he waved his hands excitedly in the air and declared in a loud voice, "Mommy, I'm over here."
It was obvious now, he was mentally challenged and also startled as he turned and saw me standing so close to him, waiting to squeeze by. His eyes widened and surprise exploded on his face as I said, "Hey Buddy, what's your name?"
"My name is Denny and I'm shopping with my mother," he responded proudly.
"Wow," I said, "that's a cool name; I wish my name was Denny, but my name is Steve."
"Steve, like Stevarino?" he asked. "Yes," I answered. "How old are you Denny?"
"How old am I now, Mommy?" he asked his mother as she slowly came over from the next aisle.
"You're fifteen-years-old Denny; now be a good boy and let the man pass by."
I acknowledged her and continued to talk to Denny for several more minutes about summer, bicycles and school. I watched his brown eyes dance with excitement, because he was the center of someone's attention. He then abruptly turned and headed toward the toy section.
Denny's mom had a puzzled look on her face and thanked me for taking the time to talk with her son. She told me that most people wouldn't even look at him, much less talk to him.
I told her that it was my pleasure and then I said something I have no idea where it came from, other than by the prompting of the Holy Spirit. I told her that there are plenty of red, yellow, and pink roses in God's Garden; however, "Blue Roses" are very rare and should be appreciated for their beauty and distinctiveness. You see, Denny is a Blue Rose and if someone doesn't stop and smell that rose with their heart and touch that rose with their kindness, then they've missed a blessing from God.
She was silent for a second, then with a tear in her eye she asked, "Who are you?"
Without thinking I said, "Oh, I'm probably just a dandelion, but I sure love living in God's garden."
She reached out, squeezed my hand and said, "God bless you!" and then I had tears in my eyes.
May I suggest, the next time you see a BLUE ROSE , whichever differences that person may have, don't turn your head and walk off. Take the time to smile and say Hello. Why? Because, by the grace of GOD, this mother or father could be you. This could be your child, grandchild, niece , nephew or any other family member. What a difference a moment can mean to that person or their family.
From an old dandelion! Live simply. Love generously. Care deeply. Speak kindly. Leave the rest up to God!
"People will forget what you said, People will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel!"
Thursday, September 27, 2012
A Thank You to our Friends and Family
Monday, September 24, 2012
The Walk is Sunday!
Tuesday, September 18, 2012
Friday, August 31, 2012
Crazy Hair
Thursday, August 9, 2012
Wednesday, August 8, 2012
Almost Famous
The cover of the invitation happens to have a picture of the CUTEST BABY IN THE WORLD! That baby would be Taylor of course! She will be giving out autographs left and right!
Friday, August 3, 2012
And then it hit me
Monday, July 23, 2012
Summer update
Thursday, June 28, 2012
Back to School
I left Whitewater right after my junior year to pursue a Meeting and Event Management Associates Degree at MATC and loved every second of it. I always knew that I would want to finish my Bachelor's Degree since I was so close to it that I could pretty much reach out and grab it.
On the application it said that I had to write a statement of how my presence will enrich the school's community. I spent a lunch hour thinking about what I could write.
Here is what I sent in:
"I am thirty years old and am a wife, a mother, a daughter, a sister and a friend. I am defined by all of these titles but most importantly by one.
So last night I opened the letter and it started with "Congratulations and welcome to UW- Whitewater!" I am pretty sure my statement is what got me in!
Wednesday, June 27, 2012
Tuesday, June 19, 2012
Walk For Taylor!
Saturday, June 2, 2012
Friday, June 1, 2012
Thursday, May 24, 2012
Tuesday, May 22, 2012
Sunday, May 13, 2012
Happy Mothers Day!
Today holds a very special place in my heart. Today we get to celebrate the often thankless, and most taken advantage of, people in our lives. Our Mothers. Far too often we underestimate the importance of what they do for us every day, and how much they sacrifice to care for their children. I know I have done this with my mother, and I never really understood how much until recently. Watching Kelly this past year has taught me more about motherhood than I had ever imagined, and I couldn't be more proud to call her my wife and the mother of my child.
This morning the phrase "you will understand when you have kids if your own" flooded into my head. Parenting, being truly responsible for the future of your children's lives can not be explained, rather it is experienced. This last years worth of experience has truly opened my eyes and has given me a whole new level of respect for parents everywhere, especially my own.
Watching Kelly grow into the best Mother I know over the past year has been one of my favorite pastimes. Seeing how she interacts with not only Taylor, put other children now is amazing! I truly believe that Taylors life os going to be full of excitement, comedy, adventure and joy because of her mother. I couldn't do this without you!
Happy Mothers Day, go hug a Mother!
Monday, May 7, 2012
Hives
Thursday, May 3, 2012
Tuesday, April 24, 2012
Happy 1st Birthday Taylor!
Happy Birthday To You!
I never knew a year could go by as quickly as this past year did. It was a blink of an eye. A beat of my heart. Almost too fast to comprehend. When did our baby turn into a toddler?
Wednesday, April 18, 2012
Monday, April 16, 2012
Sunday, April 1, 2012
Friday, March 30, 2012
Attack of the Daddy!
Wednesday, March 28, 2012
Wednesday, March 21, 2012
World Down Syndrome Day
Friday, March 16, 2012
Why We Must Fight
I applied this same tactic immediately after I heard the doctors say they thought Taylor has Down Syndrome. I had not yet even held Taylor before I was on my phone trying to find anything I could about Down Syndrome, trying to understand how those few words will change our lives forever.
That search and learning process continues, and will keep going my entire life. Throughout this process I have come across everything from medical documents, both modern and severely outdated, to personal accounts of family members or individuals with Down Syndrome, both very positive and very dark. I read, listen to, watch and question everything I can.
One of the things I have noticed, mainly on personal accounts such as blogs or comment sections of articles, is the accusations of some people towards the people that are writing blogs, that they are only talking about the positives of their lives. Somehow selling out, or being in denial, by not mentioning the struggles that can come with raising someone/living with Down Syndrome. I do feel that many people only want to report on the most positive aspects of their life. Would you want your darkest parts of your life made public for all to see? However, I also believe that it is our job as parents of children with disabilities to help educate others about what we are going through and be advocates for our children.
I know Kelly and I are very upbeat on this blog and we will continue to be. This is not because we are part of a large conspiracy to convince the world that having a child with Down Syndrome is the easiest thing we have ever done and that there will never be any struggles or difficult times we will face. We will be upbeat and positive because that is how we are raising our child. We will share our struggles with our family and friends, and a lot of them will be aired here.
One of the other things I have noticed when reading about or interacting with the families of those with disabilities is that a lot of them always seem ready for a fight. They have a tenacity, a fire, that you can recognize immediately as not anger, but as an intensity that cannot be ignored. I think a lot of people see this as being uptight, or over stressed, which can make them feel uncomfortable around them. I think it is something else entirely. I think it is the choice to fight for things that were previously thought to be basic rights for our children. I think it is a readiness to go toe to toe to ensure that our children get the best shot at life they can.
If you tie this intensity with the fact that many people only hear the positives from the families they know with children that have disabilities, a lot of people wonder why we need to fight.
There has been a story in the news the last several weeks about a family in Oregon that has a little girl, a few years old, that has Down Syndrome. They were just awarded over 2 million dollars after they sued for a "Wrongful Birth" because the doctors that did prenatal testing made a mistake on the test and missed the fact that she had Down Syndrome. This case has sparked a wild fire in our community, with people on both sides of the argument. I have been following it through a group I am part of consisting of parents of children with Down Syndrome, so everything has been respectful of the children, even when they are not on the same side of the argument.
This morning, however, I followed a link out to a newspaper that was covering this story. I had to stop reading the comments after only a few minutes. As hurt, disgusted, angered, and sick I feel at some of the comments that people left it only reminded me of why we need to continue to fight.
I thank God that our family and friends are as understanding and supportive as they are.
I also ask God for the strength, patience and wisdom to fight those that are not.
- Brian
Wednesday, March 14, 2012
DSAW - Awareness Walk Invitation
Tuesday, March 13, 2012
Friday, March 9, 2012
World Down Syndrome Day - March 21st
Monday, March 5, 2012
Busy Busy!
I can't believe that Taylor is 10 months old already! One of the things that people always tell you before you have kids is how fast time will go by and to enjoy and cherish every stage they are in. But this is crazy!
Taylor continues to progress well with her physical/occupational therapy. She has also found a love of being mobile. Gone are the days of setting her down for 20 minutes and letting her do some tummy time on her play mat. Now we have to put her down on one side of the room, watch her roll away from us (she really likes rolling to her right), then when she gets to the other side of the room, flip her around so she can roll back! We keep teasing her with toys and working with her to get her to crawl forward. She has all of the individual components down, just needs to piece them all together. We have been able to coax her to roll back to her left recently, which saves us a trip across the room :)
Everything else is going very well. She continues to try some wonderfully creative food combinations that Kelly comes up with and loves just about everything. We are starting to get into the realm of self feeding. She is really getting the hang of grabbing her puffs or shredded cheese off her tray and getting most of it in her mouth! Because of all of this she is still growing like a weed. Most of the time she has to wear 12mo pants because her legs are so long.
Kelly and I are keeping plenty busy as well. Kelly begins her new job at Goodwill today. She will be in charge of grant writing for southern Wisconsin and northern Illinois. She is also on the committee to help plan our Down Syndrome Awareness walk at the zoo this fall. I have also become more active in our local D.A.D.S. (Dads Appreciating Down Syndrome) group. We are having our first fundraiser of the year next month in the form of a Comedy Sportz event. We will also help out with the DSAW brewer game later this summer.
We will be putting together a team for our walk this year. More information to come!
That's it for now. Hope everyone is doing well!
Thursday, March 1, 2012
Wednesday, February 29, 2012
Monday, February 20, 2012
February Happenings
Taylor's personality is starting to bust through too! Our nights are filled with so many baby giggles, silly smiles, crazy dancing and so much talking. She has said "Hi Dada" a couple of times but we are not sure if that was coincidence or not.
We are finding out how fast a year can go by and are starting to plan Taylor's first birthday party! So many exciting things are coming up that we can't wait to share with you!
Tuesday, February 14, 2012
Monday, February 13, 2012
Sunday, February 12, 2012
Wednesday, February 1, 2012
Monday, January 30, 2012
Saturday, January 28, 2012
Wednesday, January 25, 2012
I'm a model you know what I mean
Taylor's physical therapist, Lee, used Taylor as a model for a baby yoga brochure. Our sweet little baby hammed it up for the photographer with lots of smiles and killer yoga poses.
Watch out Baby Gap! Taylor works for cute clothes and snuggles!